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Sadly that's something that's always been around on IMVU and to much lesser degree SL as well. Though in some ways I have fond memories of the pizza parlour during my early days of VU. The whole street kids vs emo kids thing was chaotic to put it lightly, but in a kind of fun, not-too-serious and no filter way like MW2 lobbies back in the day. A
lot of shit talking, really and no-one got offended for more than 10 minutes before forgetting it mattered. I think it's more a matter of cliques and posing now though; do you 'fit in' or 'look meta' - to the point that being silent, moody and brooding is a factor, which just baffles me. It's like a highschool mentality, but in a place where the only thing that
should matter is personality, of which many these days lack. Maybe I'm just spoiled by the glory days or being too laid-back.
VU people can be pretty bad, but I wouldn't consider it/them gaming. In terms of gaming-gaming and stuff that I've played? Gotta be GTA Online. So few people there over my years playing it before giving it up were actually chill or nice. You've got the inhumanly inept that struggle with basic, common-sense things, you've got bad sportmanship everywhere, you've got friendly-fire style griefing and you've got the try-hard style of griefing (who ironically have a lot in common with the moody 'meta' clique types on IMVU - even down the faux-grunge aesthetic.) It's just a whole lot of negativity, it isn't worth it and it's silly considering how much of a casual game GTA is, or should be if you discount the inane grind it turned into.
My wildcard would be Escape From Tarkov. Just yikes when it comes to noxious vibes and elitism.