cry for help

Nikky Maxim
by Nikky Maxim · 39 posts
12 years ago in Casual Dating Tips
Posted 12 years ago · Author
Hi guys . Eh as much as i hate causing drama this issue is serious. Since we are all family i would really need your help.
As some of you know i do have (had) a master , we love each other but we are not dating (personal reason )
Lately hes been accusing of me being a slut and i have never did anything a slut would do . I stay at home all the time , i dont talk to anyone except him , i dont look at guys or guys (yes im bi) . I feel like im being torn apart . I know he isnt the reason to live for , but he just makes me so happy . He's bipolar im not sure if thats why he sometimes acts up and completely hurts me , but i always regain my strenght. I am a very emotional girl , I do everything for him . I would give up my life for him , yet it feels like its still not enough to please him . My love for him is brighter than the sun , deeper than the black hole .
Without him im lost and im sad . I do not know what to do , i do not want to let go of him , i want him with me .I have OCD i am very obsessive . Last relationship was so painful , he made me happy when i met him. Now he makes me sad , but then later he makes my heart jump from joy .
I need your advice , how to make this all better . ;\ I am nothing , nothing without him.
I quit imvu because i do not want anything to stand in my way between me and him .
I shall always be loyal to him .
THE END
Posted 12 years ago
First of all what kind of help are you expecting?

We can't make a clear decision here for you on what to do based on just what you wrote, but following your heart is a bad solution in this case, because your heart is (methaphorically speaking) drunk right now. It doesn't see things clear. That's why you need to think with your brain and I believe you're intelligent enough to make a good decision about this, if you are intelligent enough to make such a great website.

Based on what you've said, I think he's either just playing with you or it may really be his illness, but as I'm not a doctor and do not know what all bipolar may cause, I can't really tell. I think, you should make yourself clear what you want. If you want to be with him, that's fine, but the question is, if he takes you and what you two have together serious.

I hope I've helped, but hey, chin up and dont give drugs a chance! :wink:
Posted 12 years ago
CyeCore Cr4ck wrote:
First of all what kind of help are you expecting?

We can't make a clear decision here for you on what to do based on just what you wrote, but following your heart is a bad solution in this case, because your heart is (methaphorically speaking) drunk right now. It doesn't see things clear. That's why you need to think with your brain and I believe you're intelligent enough to make a good decision about this, if you are intelligent enough to make such a great website.

Based on what you've said, I think he's either just playing with you or it may really be his illness, but as I'm not a doctor and do not know what all bipolar may cause, I can't really tell. I think, you should make yourself clear what you want. If you want to be with him, that's fine, but the question is, if he takes you and what you two have together serious.

I hope I've helped, but hey, chin up and dont give drugs a chance! :wink:

Couldn't have said it better myself.

His issues probably clouded his judgement. That, or love made you blind, and you finally managed to catch a glimpse of what's REALLY going on.
Posted 12 years ago · Author
bipolar causes drastical mood swings that he cannot control . The problem is one day he says he needs me the other day he says that i am not what he wants . The problem is that i dont know what to do like i said i do not want to leave him , i was with him for 11 months now .
Last edited by General Tony on Sat May 21, 2011 6:28 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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Posted 12 years ago
Nikky Maxim wrote:
bipolar causes drastical mood swings that he cannot control . The problem is one day he says he needs me the other day he says that i am not what he wants . The problem is that i dont know what to do like i said i do not want to leave him , i was with him for 11 months now .

Then I'd say stay with him... only if you can overlook his problems.
Posted 12 years ago · Author
C-Digg wrote:
Nikky Maxim wrote:
bipolar causes drastical mood swings that he cannot control . The problem is one day he says he needs me the other day he says that i am not what he wants . The problem is that i dont know what to do like i said i do not want to leave him , i was with him for 11 months now .

Then I'd say stay with him... only if you can overlook his problems.

i will i know he cant control it , yet i want him to see what i feel but he will not see it . I love him more than anything in this world >.< . I feel bad for having people involved in my drama but keeping it within myself will kill me
Posted 12 years ago
Then what you should do, is talk to him. Tell him how you feel, tell him what you told us. A conversation between you two, can clear things up.
As from what I know, there is no known cure for bipolar disorder. So you'll have to live with that side of him and the best way for that is if you two manage this together.
It's not just hard for you and you have to remember that.

Overlooking the problem is no solution, but learning how to deal with it.
Posted 12 years ago · Author
CyeCore Cr4ck wrote:
Then what you should do, is talk to him. Tell him how you feel, tell him what you told us. A conversation between you two, can clear things up.
As from what I know, there is no known cure for bipolar disorder. So you'll have to live with that side of him and the best way for that is if you two manage this together.
It's not just hard for you and you have to remember that.

Overlooking the problem is no solution, but learning how to deal with it.

Thanks , but i cant talk to him about it hes too stubborn to understand , i did tell him everything i told you here , yet he still doesnt trust me even after 11 months thats why even if i do talk to him about this it wont be understood
Posted 12 years ago
If he won't listen, you'll need to make a decision. Leave him or deal with him the same way as you did before.
If he does not want to listen to you and change his ways of dealing with your relationship, you should make him clear,
you do not want it to go further like this and if nothing changes, I only see two options.

Leave him or deal with him the same way as you did before.
And I know you don't want either of them, but you'll have to decide between these two, unless there is another option.
Posted 12 years ago · Author
CyeCore Cr4ck wrote:
If he won't listen, you'll need to make a decision. Leave him or deal with him the same way as you did before.
If he does not want to listen to you and change his ways of dealing with your relationship, you should make him clear,
you do not want it to go further like this and if nothing changes, I only see two options.

Leave him or deal with him the same way as you did before.
And I know you don't want either of them, but you'll have to decide between these two, unless there is another option.

Like my favorite saying goes "no pain - no gain" So i actually know my dessition i will stay with him and i will deal with his illness . From your point of view imagine you are in my situation and your gf/bf is acting like him , Give me the dealog of what you would say to him/her .

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