I LIKE YOUR TWO CENTS ON IT.


let's say after a number of years with someone here on imvu. you just want a change, a total radical change. leaving your old life friends included behind.                                         ( or at least most of them )   so how to do it cleanly, smartly and sanely. ?. Well in this article I will offer you a few ways to do it and not come off like a headcase. a b!!tch or b@st@rd sure but not as a headcase. When completely rebooting your life here you need to have as few strings from your past as you can. That way your new self can be truly new. without baggage or cares or regrets. this is your world . your life. you are god or goddess of it. your own numbeber 1' 2' and sometimes 3! in it.  So let's get to it!  

1, THE BIG BLOCK. This is the simplest and most direct form of leaving. simply block them. When I say block I mean BLOCK!  everything your public rooms ask your real friends if you have any to block them from there rooms. block phone block email address  block facebook discord or any social whatever you share or not. just block them every way you can then leave for a week to avoid them and their attempts to hunt you down on imvu. simple, clean and without too much mess. you can make it messy with a why or because letter but why? if you were sorry in the least you wouldn't be doing this.

2. THE STEALTH JOB.  This is a smoother, sneakier version of the big block. you do everything you do in the big block  . but with no warning! and you flat out block everyone you ever share with your now ex . Total poff folks!  and then use a name change token! yeah yeah yeah!  but you like your name. you can get back in a month or two that's what name change tokens are for. and dont forget to do all this at 3 in the morning so no one notices you just going gone on their lists. remove yourself from groups they know your on as well. total poff means total stay off for two to 3 weeks dont go back to any old hang out. be that NEW PERSON you claim you want to be. the old you is dead. 
3 I'M GONE . Tell everyone you're leaving, then do it. leave for a week or two or 3 or 4 while your gone block and clean out everything that could lead back to you hell change your name twice to confuse the path. hide your albums there in your past or delete them .  remember new you.yeah this means 90% or more of your friends list is gone forever! but isn't that what you wanted a fresh start?  
 4. DROP THE BOMB.   retire your account sever all rl connections and start a brand new account. See them follow you then lol. costly sure but they're never going to find you then.
 5. IT'S A GOOD TIME FOR AN APOCALYPSE.  this one is ballsy  and yes you're going to come out of  it with few friends and rep! you just flat out demand it's over block your now ex 3 ways to sunday anyone complaints or said word one you block then the same way. you just walk out of the house you built while it is in flames. to your new life. simple harsh done.

6.COWBOY UP. This one is the hardest to do for some. just go to your soon to be ex and admit you need a fresh start. It's all about you. and only you everything you had with them means and meant nothing  to you. it was all a lie to get you through and then just take all the crap you deserve.. let them rage let them cry let them hate your guts take all the crap they and your soon to be ex friends give you. When it's over, block who you need to and go to your new life . new name or not with a shitheel rep that will fade sooner than you think. Good luck and goodbye.     


                                                                                                 disclaimer
This advice is for folks in normal relationships, not some abusive GOR  or BDSM  STALKER OBSESSED  sack O crap person. Those you REPORT  and your friends report over and over again copy everything they say to you and copy every message . just copy everything and send it to imvu with the reports over and over again. till imvu sends you a notice that there looking into it and are taking action. copy that to and take it to your local cops. get a restraining order on them . i dont care if there 5 miles 50 or 5000 miles away just get it. be safe be smart and bless be.

Honestly, I don't recommend this to anyone. I did something like this when I had a breakdown as a teen, cleared my whole friend's list, etc. The result and in hindsight? It was stupid, immature and only made things worse in the long-run, while no doubt making me look like an angsty teen with issues. Seriously, unless you're in a dark place where you've surrounded yourself with bad people or shady circles, DO NOT do this. Nothing good will come from it and you're likely to feel worse at the end, if not outright lose some genuine and decent friends in the process.

Likewise, deleting your main account that you've likely spent money and time on is also going to make you feel abysmal and is ultimately unnecessary. My alternative would be to make a new/alt account if you need to and take some time away on that one instead, if you need a fresh take on things or a break from people. Though if you really feel you need a break, it's probably a better idea to give IMVU (or whatever platform you're having issues on) a break instead. Don't log in, check messages, etc. Just go do something else you enjoy, or seek out something new. (New social platform, new game, exercise or hobby - whatever you feel like or want to roll the dice on.) I would recommend potentially setting a status, making a post or informing some of your better friends if you are doing this, though. On one hand it lets them know and on the other hand it usually ends up being a good indicator of who your true friends are if they take note.

If you're unhappy with a relationship or friendship, do the mature thing and communicate. Tell someone you're not happy and explain why, let your decision for change be known. Anyone worth their salt will understand this and respect it and they might even be able to help you. If they lash out? You have the confirmation you needed and can proceed with dropping the person(s) from your life, no questions asked or extra drama needed. Do not simple drop off and block people for no reason other than "I want change. / I'm not happy." Doing so only means you're the problem, whether it's true or not.

As I mentioned earlier, this is regarding normal friendships and relationships. If you're in with bad people who're dragging you down, then absolutely go ahead and block, drop and roll without a word or second thought. I recently had to drop someone due to personal life changes and them being part of a "bad" crowd, coupled with the fact they dropped off after I informed them of some changes in my life; i.e. not the friend I thought they were.

I'm gonna have to agree with everything you've said here. We've all been in those situations where we feel like we need a fresh start but sometimes a little communication can go a long way.

Auspicious K wrote:

I recently had to drop someone due to personal life changes and them being part of a "bad" crowd, coupled with the fact they dropped off after I informed them of some changes in my life; i.e. not the friend I thought they were.

I am sorry to hear that. Losing a good friend really sucks even if they were as good a friend as you thought. On a lighter note, does this mean you have a vacancy that needs filled? I'd like an application.

It's true, nor the only time I've had to do it. I don't regret it, though. Partly because I think it's not worth regretting and dwelling on and partly because I feel confident it was the right decision in the long-term. If it wasn't? I'll never know, so it doesn't make much difference. Equally I'm one for sticking to my morals. If I make a decision, even a mistake, I'm prepared to live with it and stand by it, even if I come off worse. (Not to say I won't right wrongs, but I won't make excuses for them. Or I'll accept my fate if I messed up and it bites me.)

As for an application, that depends on your view to pineapple being on pizza. Or how good you are baking cookies.

It's not a topping I'd ever chose but I'm also not bothered by anyone who does. I've never baked cookies before, I'd probably fuck it up, lol.

This was actually a wild ride to read—raw, real, and oddly empowering in its own way. I respect the honesty and the no-BS approach. Sometimes, people do outgrow their spaces, their circles, and even versions of themselves. And while it might sound cold, there’s something liberating about recognizing when it’s time to close a chapter—completely.

That said, I think it’s important to know why you’re doing it. If you’re truly looking for peace, growth, or a reset, then sure, take the big steps. But if it’s just escape with no plan for the future version of yourself, you might end up rebuilding the same thing you ran from. Still, I appreciate the breakdown—especially the different “methods”—because everyone leaves differently.

Also, big respect for the disclaimer. Safety always comes first. No one should ever feel stuck in toxic or dangerous situations, online or off.

Anyway… wild advice, but definitely useful for anyone seriously thinking about starting over. Sometimes you really do need to be your own apocalypse.

thank you all for your input.. your all right in your own ways.. i wrote this in response to the actions of my now ex.. lets call her BITTER..
because of a slew of real life reasons. she decided to trashcan her complete life and character on imvu. but she wanted to keep her name and her account as it was. 95% of her past and especially her old rep HAD TO DIE !! so she went about over a year or so to destroy her past self on imvu . by lies cruelty and alienating her friends and ruining her friends and loves ones lives on imvu . only keeping anyone that she could use to further her aim's. most of us in the tempest of hellfire she created would have rather have been just blocked left behind just ignored. instead of here total mental holocost she pulled on us. so i wrote this to show her and her cohorts how they could just go ahead on there ego trip new lifes with out punishing every one else... i wastsed 5 years of my life on this person on imvu. .... in my small way this was written to prove that the 5 years were REAL .. THEY MATTERED. anyway thank you for all your input.